Members of a popular internet company that came together to support a married woman revealed why she stopped attending her mother-in-law’s weekly family dinners.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITeA**hole, Redditor u/energydiet33 (aka Original Poster or OP) said she was tired of being insulted by her husband’s mother and explained her Decision to stop interacting with her mother-in-law sparked a lot of family tension.
Captioned: “[Am I the a**hole] for telling mine [mother-in-law] about my ‘energy diet’ and says that’s why I’m not coming to your weekly family dinners anymore?” The post has received more than 8,600 votes and 1,600 comments in the last 10 hours.
The original poster wrote that she had previously attended family dinners with her husband and said an onslaught of insults from her mother-in-law prompted her to cut the tough woman out of her life entirely.
“At every dinner she hosts, she found a way to open up about my hair, my body, my job, my age, and worst of all, my infertility,” the OP wrote. “It upsets me, makes me uncomfortable and drives me nuts. [Mother-in-law says she’s just looking out for me and my husband thinks I’m being too sensitive.“
„During ‚my‘ last dinner there, [mother-in-law] commented on my infertility by telling me to hurry up and get pregnant soon because ‘I’m not getting any younger,'” continued OP.
After missing several family dinners, the original poster said she received a call from her mother-in-law and used their conversation as an opportunity to vent her feelings.
“She asked if I would show up for the family dinner next week,” the OP wrote. “I said ‘no, I’m actually on a diet’ [and] She laughed and said that I actually need to ‘lose a few pounds’.”
“I said, ‘Oh no, I’m actually on an energy diet, so if there’s anything that’s bothering me, making me uncomfortable, driving me nuts, I don’t want it and I don’t want to waste my energy on it'” , continued OP. “She was offended and said I was being rude to her for no good reason.”
“My husband came home later and started yelling at me [what] I said to his mother,” OP added. “He said again that I was too sensitive but added that I would embarrass him in front of his entire family and said I’m basically telling him by choosing not to show up anymore. Family ‘F* *k y’all’ in all faces.”
Stories of toxic, overbearing, and abusive mothers-in-law are scattered across Reddit’s r/AmITeA**hole forum, and in most cases they read similar to the original poster’s account.
However, a mother-in-law targeting her daughter-in-law’s fertility issues is extreme and warrants a comprehensive response, such as refusing to attend family gatherings and cutting off contact as much as possible.
Earlier this year, parenting website We Have Kids published an eight-step guide advising married women on how to reclaim power from their toxic mother-in-law.
Steps include ceasing all efforts to appease toxic behavior, not responding to obvious instances of incitement, and both setting limits with severe consequences for violations.
However, the eighth and final step of We Have Kids is simple: “Find your joy.”
By focusing on inner happiness and banishing outer negativity, a mother-in-law’s toxic behavior can be mitigated and rendered useless.
“Focusing on things (people, activities) that bring joy is empowering and liberating,” states the We Have Kids website. “You consciously choose to shift your attention, change your emotional state, and thereby change your reality.”
The original poster’s “Energy Diet” is an example of this practice, which relies on consuming positive energy…