#Howareusus? | A young trance man
“Learn to build a wall for yourself relatively quickly”
Vera was born as a boy. However, a few years ago, she realized that the sex assigned to her at birth was not right for her. She had been taking hormones for several weeks now. Chat log.
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Vera is 17 years old and lives in Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin. She turned out to be gay four years ago. Today, she describes herself as a transsexual. When the Corona pandemic broke out, Vera spent a lot of time thinking about herself. Little by little, Vera said, she felt what she wanted and missed.
Casually, I told my mom on the couch that I wanted to be Vera, not Christoph. I felt good, and my family never made a big deal out of it. There were no negative experiences either in the circle of friends or at school. Unfortunately, I still have them in public spaces and with strangers.
You learn to build a wall for yourself relatively quickly. However, some experiences are shocking. In Alexander Square, a stranger once slapped me in the face and shouted “fucking trany.” I have also been tracked home more than once. I have made many complaints to the police. It never had any effect like fines. But something like that is still important, if only for statistics. Attacks on short-lived, bizarre or homosexual people about which the public knows nothing are, unfortunately, too frequent.
I would describe my environment as diverse. I have always been who I am now, and I have never hidden myself. I was always attracted to the people who attracted me. This is how I formed a circle of friends with people who are very important to me and who think like me.
I got a lot of support from them, as well as a lot from my parents when I felt bad or didn’t know what to do. It was a long way before I was able to drink hormones. In addition to the psychological and psychiatric report, I also had many discussions with the endocrinologist [Die Endokrinologie befasst sich mit Hormonen und hormonproduzierenden Organen, Anm.d.Red.]. But in the end, it’s good that the process takes longer, because, for example, if a person with a dysmorphic disorder of the body feels transgender, improper treatment can lead to serious side effects such as depression. [Eine körperdysmorphe Störung ist gekennzeichnet durch eine übermäßige Beschäftigung mit einem eingebildeten Mangel oder einer befürchteten Entstellung der äußeren Erscheinung, Anm.d.Red.]
I really want to ever have a sex reassignment operation. I actually like my face as it is. But the hormones I use alone will change something, like facial features. I just take the time and watch what happens.
I feel like I’m on the right track. But I know other transgender people who doubt: What if I’m wrong? And what if I thought differently a few years later? On the other hand, I am sure I am doing the right thing and I am clearly committed.
Interview minutes: Matthias Bartsch, rbb88.8